I become a Labrador puppy

I have never been successful with women but it would be more honest to say that I had given up.
I decided to deal with this problem by studying the pickup gurus. This placed an extra layer of theory on top of my excuses. Most of these guys were much younger than me and recommended approaching women in nightclubs and grabbing their attention with a variety of flashy tricks.
It was absolutely fascinating and I sat in the corner of the room and saw everything in a whole new light.
Nevertheless.. nothing changed for me. Until last week.
I had recently lost my job and had time to study- an boy, is there a lot of study in pick up! Pick up is a science invented by nerd. These nerds studied the secrets of the so called 'naturals' who did all the right things by instinct. You cannot ask a natural what his secret is- he will probably have no idea. He cannot understand the problem. Girls love sex, right?
There are a number of systems that will mimic the attraction switches native to naturals. Unfortunately they tended to put me into my head and make me more nerdy than before.
The Natural does not 'try'. The Natural simply 'is'. This is why he is so bewitching to the female species.
How do you get from one state to the other? Faith. This is not faith in God but faith in the system. I felt something very strange happen to me as I listened to the 'blueprint decoded'. It felt that somehow the organs in my chest were being rearranged. It became blindingly obvious that I had created the entire problem myself.
This was not an intellectual understanding- I had understood this for some time.
This was not positive thinking or hype.
This was entering a parallel universe.
I was so excited that I joined a singles meetup (meetup.com) and headed out in the calm certainty that everything would be different.
And it was... I met the women that only Naturals meet. Intelligent, thoughtful, sexy and strangely transfixed by all that I said.
Even stranger.. this was not surprising to me. It was as if this had been happening all of my life and I would have been surprised at any woman who was not interested in me.
I enjoyed the attention but felt no desire to set up multiple dates. This was not fear but an abundance mentality. I felt that this attention would always be there for me so I was in no hurry. I felt like a Labrador puppy running from girl to girl- and loved by them all. Labradors are lovable because they have no fear. They think you will love them and so you cannot help but do so. Naturals are quite similar and I seemed to have become one without any real work on my part.
Actually, becoming a natural was one of my main life goals.
I even had a strange 'psychic' experience that I have not yet worked out. I could feel the most delicious sexual energy coming from each women- but most strongly from an Indian hippy chick who was a member of a law of attraction group- she was drawing men to her by simple desire.
Well.. since then my life has been fantastic. I talk to women on trains and buses but mainly on meetup groups. They are all friendly and if I find them attractive I make love to them. Sometimes they say no but it is taken as a compliment and not sexual harassment.
I am going out again tonight (meetup again). I will talk to many women and I may go home with one. In fact I am not bothered much either way. I will simply enjoy the moment like a Natural.
I would like you to look the photograph that was taken on yet another meetup. I am engaged in a three way conversation between a German girl, a sweet Japanese girl and an Italian. I am a middle aged man who is overweight and cheaply dressed and my facial expressions seem to be deeply weird- and yet I seem to have become a natural. Like every other natural I have no idea what is going on. It is simply that every woman I meet now seems to be friendly.
I suppose I should be afraid of slipping back to my old ways and yet my heart says the change is permanent. I will try not to ruin it with thought.
I have not written this to boast but to give you hope. Most of my readers are younger and fitter than me. Look at the photograph and realise that you can do anything this fat fool can do.

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Identity

Tyler from RSD
A fundamental concept in game is that a man must have an attractive identity. All of the great seduction gurus have achieved their success with women largely due to their identity rather than their lines or methods. Mystery is an illusionist and TV star. Style is a writer who hangs out with rock stars. Tyler travels with an entourage of interns and admirers which treat him like a rock star and so on. I guarantee you that any of us would do nearly as well given the same identity.
This does not mean that gurus are out and out frauds. Their advice is often good- but it will not work in your home town where everyone knows you as the local nerd. To be fair, all of the gurus admit that a strong identity is needed.
We need to find a new identity for ourselves. This does NOT involve lies. It is more a matter of finding ones true self and then being that person.
In order to do this we must first be absolutely honest about our old 'bad' identity. This is the reason we are not getting the respect we deserve- and we can only understand the problem is with brutal honesty.
So here it comes (with brutal honesty), my old identity.
1) Middle aged man who has not achieved very much. Partially employed (by choice) because he wishes to study game and hang out with fellow losers and conspiracy freaks.
2) Uneducated despite high IQ
3) Overweight and unsuccessful with women. Bitter former nice guy and emotional vampire.
4) A failure in life who insists upon advising others how to live their own lives. Combines poor self image with an arrogant disdain for liberals and feminists.
Is it surprising that I was not attracting hot babes to my bed? Who would want to get involved with such a man? Nobody apart from the occasional woman with low self esteem and mental health issues!
So here is my new identity.

1) A young 46 year old who still has a sense of fun. A rebel and eternal student who refuses to sell his soul to the company store. Non conformist with his finger on the hidden London that few people see.
2) Highly educated despite having few paper qualifications. Widely travelled and widely read. I know how to buy airline tickets for �5 and book hostels for �4 a night. This means I can spend much of the year on holiday and can also offer this life to any woman who wishes to join me.
3) A home owner who spends approximately 26 weeks a year travelling or studying things that interest him. This is something few millionaires can afford to do.
4) A leader of men and a bad boy. My 'ghost nation' essay has been re posted all over the place and has even been made into a pod-cast. I have studied game, Austrian economics and other esoteric subjects that most people cannot imagine. I am a free man.

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Social circle game

The best pick up artist in the world cannot work if they are not meeting women.
Pick up literature talks of three kinds of game.
1. NIGHT GAME
This is approaching women in nightclubs. It is generally quite scripted (you have to get their attention very quickly). The problem is that many people (including older guys) are not comfortable in this environment. The women you do meet there may not be girlfriend material.
2. DAY GAME
This is approaching women at random on the street. Women are trained to be suspicious and fearful of men in most western countries and this tends to set this conditioning off. Both night and day game have the advantage that they provide unlimited prospects.
3. SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME
This is rarely discussed and I am not sure why. Most people meet their wives and husbands this way and yet the pickup community seems to ignore it. Maybe it is a machismo thing. Day game and night game are rather frightening. Social circle game is tame in comparison.
I am a believer in social circle game but this may be because I am not a true PUA. I am seeking two things from my knowledge.
1) I want friendly and sane relationships with all women regardless of any sexual interest.
2) I want a relationship with a woman who can be my equal (in other words I do not have to buy her time with gifts).
I am not interested in pulling hot babes for instant sex. I tried it once to see if I could. It was a bit like surfing the Internet.

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The man who owns the sun

The most reliable indicator of a persons spiritual level is their ability to own things.
A person of a low level is capable of only of owning things exclusively. In other words the pleasure is not so much in the ownership but in depriving others of ownership.
These people generally work hard and spend their money on things that other people will admire- such as cars and houses. They do not even get pleasure from these things themselves. As soon as they find someone who does not envy their belongings they become dissatisfied.
The world at large passes them by. They do not notice the beauty of public architecture or the flowers in the park. They are bent upon accumulating things. You may show such a person a great work of art and yet they are unable to truly 'see' the painting. These people experience the world though the proxy of other peoples opinions. The painting is good if it is fashionable- or if it is worth a great deal of money.
The terrible irony is that these great materialists do not even own themselves.
A person of high spiritual level on the other hand will always be wealthy. The whole world belongs to them but they are happier sharing these things than enjoying them alone.
Anyone who wishes to join the Ghost Nation must first attain this level. This is because going ghost involves giving up exclusive ownership of 'stuff'. The ghost owns little but his rucksack and his freedom and yet he owns the entire world.

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The Red Shoes

There is a fairy tale of a girl who wished to dance so much that she bought a pair of magic red shoes. As long as she wore these shoes she danced- but she had no way to take them off.
So she danced and danced. The blessing became a curse.
I have spent four days or so in a heightened state- mostly induced by watching videos on pick up. This is a new world for me. It seems that 'state' is contagious. First it is transferred from the program to me and then it is transferred from me to everyone I meet.
Viewing these videos is something of a mystery all of its own. On one level they make total sense but on the other hand they seem virtually meaningless. While viewing them I entered state and felt that I had been given some sort of eternal truth. Even talking about 'state' while I am not in state makes it seem a mirage. It is the condition of being totally 'right'. Everything I say is exactly what needs to be said and everything I do is appropriate.
While in this condition I met and then slept with a Brazilian/Colombian one time children's TV presenter who was in London to become a model and actress. She was just 22.
The trouble seems to be that state requires an expenditure of emotional energy. While in state I feel as high as a crack cocaine addict. This is actually a good analogy. Now that I have come off the boil the whole thing seems slightly irrelevant and futile. Furthermore I now seem to be more socially inept than I was before.
The really interesting thing about Real Social Dynamics (or at least the higher level stuff I have been viewing) is that it is not really about seducing women at all. It is all about reaching and sustaining 'state' which they often call the Nimbus.
In fact the nimbus seems to be its own reward. Life is more vivid and exciting. Possibilities seem infinite. There is a tendency to spend money one does not have and launch ventures that I am not qualified to complete. In this respect it seems similar to the 'up' part of a manic depressive (bipolar) condition. It may be that people simply become addicted to this 'up'.
It is thrilling to discover one can do this sort of thing- and very unusual to go from nothing to an apparent (but possibly illusionary) mastery. I wonder how I will feel if I realise that it was nothing but beginners luck and self delusion.
This thought compels me to pump myself into state once again- simply to prove that I am not a self deluding buffoon.
But what if I am not deluding myself?
What if the nimbus is real? What if I need to pursue models and actresses to maintain it? What if I sometimes succeed?
Would this be heaven or would it be hell?
I have a feeling I will find out. This is a dance that I have started and it is not clear how I could end it.

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Two Englishmen, three clubs

The title of this post is actually a quote from Goring, the leader of the German air force in world war two and it was probably true when he spoke it.
The English are tremendously keen on forming associations for vaguely worthy goals. The English are probably no better at inventing games than any other nation but we are tremendously good at creating sports societies and rulebooks. This meant that English sports tended to become popular abroad because of the structure that came with them.
The same applies to charities and self improvement societies such as the Youth Hostel Association or housing associations for the working poor. The English tended to create an organised structure for everything that could be duplicated across the world.
This voluntary endeavour seemed to reach its peak in the Victorian age when national self confidence was at its peak and the welfare state had not yet been invented. Voluntary associations have been in a steady decline for many decades because it was the governments job to look after us. Unfortunately governments are now going broke all over the world and so this is no longer possible. We may be entering a new age of voluntarism.
In fact we cannot reduce the role of the state in our lives unless we take over some of its functions ourselves. This has a double benefit. Firstly, it cuts the politically correct expert class out of the picture. Secondly, it provides a role and status for men who have been marginalised in our society.
Our present welfare system has created an artificial division of labour between the creators of wealth and the poor. Welfare is distributed by an unaccountable liberal elite who do not understand the link between work and personal salvation. This was not true of the Victorian philanthropist who actively sought out the 'deserving poor' and it will not be true in the future.
In fact the road out of poverty usually involves adopting conservative values (hard work, frugality, faithfulness to ones partner and so on). Future welfare will be tied to these virtues because successful people realise their importance and successful people will administer charity.

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The lie at the heart of Game

If you ask and pick up guru why they are good with women you will be told that they clawed their way to success through hard work. This is a cheering message but unfortunately it is also a lie.
Let us look at the gurus a little closer- what do we find? Almost every one of them has a lifestyle that would draw women to them no matter how bad their game. In most cases they became good with women through practice because their lifestyles were drawing women to them anyway.
Mystery is an illusionist and now he is a T.V star as well. I could take the geekiest guy in the world, put him on T.V and follow him around with cameras and I am sure he would get laid.
How about Style? He is on first name terms with rock stars and is also a millionaire. Tyler is worshiped like a rock star and has male groupies follow him around and hang on every word. The entire RSD business empire is a colossal DHV.
Gambler looks like a male model, AFC Adam was a club promoter and so on. This is not to say that their advice is not good- but be aware that they did NOT drag themselves from AFCdom by the methods they teach. Every pick up guru (with the apparent exception of Ross Jefferies) has cultivated a rock star lifestyle and then laid game on top.

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Paradox

You are highly intelligent, young, educated and healthy.
(You are twenty times more likely to suffer depression than a Nigerian slum dweller)
You are politically free. Travel is cheap and you earn more in an hour than many people earn in a month.
(All you do is work- you rarely leave your own home).
You live in a land of sexual abundance. You meet women every day.
(You wonder where the women are)

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Value

Whatever life is withholding from us- the answer is always the same- we must give more value.
Seeking love? Give value! Be more fun! Understand romance!! Understand game, not to manipulate but to make dreams come true.
What of our friends? What do our friends get from our company? Are we mood lifters or are we downers? Do we introduce fresh ideas and opportunities to their lives?
Value is a skill and it is transferable. Qualities such as thoughtfulness, fun, steadfastness and so on make us better lovers, better friends and better employees. We must create massive value- really colossal value on every level. Value gives us power in negotiations because it means we have plenty of options.
I have created a Value C.V page. Please understand this is a work in progress.
Tags: Find Love, Make friends, Get promoted.

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From Low Omega to High Omega

If you are reading this article then you are not a true Low Omega. Low Omegas are happy in their misery. You feel shit because your life sucks.
Simply knowing that your life sucks (and not you) can help a great deal. You stop being angry at yourself (the root cause of depression) and start being angry at the world.
In other words- you have just moved from Low Omega to High Omega.
Congratulations!

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You have to see this

You really have to see the website of Dimitri the Lover- it makes the Tom Cruise character in Magnolia look like a saint. In fact I am sure he is being as offensive as he can possibly be.
http://www.dimitrithelover.com/
This guy has become quite famous for his personal history which allegedly involves being struck off as a psychiatrist for sexual misconduct, hoarding weapons and leaving psycho messages on answering machines.
Beyond parody- but fun in a dark way.

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The future of Game

This is where I think the pick up industry is going.
1. Most of the major brands in the pick up industry are making far less money than they used to. The most financially savvy of them all, David DeAngelo has left the industry and become a business motivation guru. Style (who wrote the only mainstream book on the subject) now writes about other things. This is because most of what they offer can be freely downloaded off the Internet. Boot-camps can also be found locally at lower cost.
2. The industry has gone a complete circle and partially negated itself. It started out as a box of tools to trick women into bed and then discovered 'natural game' which rejects pick up lines and scripts. Most pick up gurus advise their followers to be their best selves. The trouble is that this logic abolishes the need for gurus in the longer term.
3. The industry has not developed a major new theory for about three years.
4. The emphasis still seems to be upon night clubs. This is odd because night clubs are badly suited to natural game (the current vogue) due to the short attention span of these women. We see more emphasis on day game but very little on social circle game. I predict that the future is in social circle game because this is best suited to the easygoing sociable and friendly persona most pick up gurus are urging their students to adopt.
5. There is a marked reduction in hero worship within the community.
6. I had expected some sort of feminist backlash and an attempt to associate seduction with rape. This has not occurred and this may be because the numbers of active pick up artists is very small. I would guess that less than fifty men in London go out four times a week and regularly approach girls. This probably equates to less than a thousand worldwide.
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The point is not just to survive

There are survivalists who are in the game merely to survive. Generally these are people with families they are motivated to protect in addition to themselves. People are far less selfish than is generally assumed.
There is a second group (to which I belong) who are in the game to help others. This may involve a Moses-like search for safety or it may involve emerging from the wreckage of the old society to create something new. This is good as far as it goes but it resembles certain doomsday cults.
The most likely threats are economic collapse or a period of political tyranny. These are not absolute states. For instance, the current tendency is western societies is towards greater state control of every area of life. This has occurred despite an unprecedented expansion of democracy across the globe. It is quite possible to imagine a very nasty authoritarian atmosphere developing without creating a dictatorship as such.
Western democracies will probably enter a period of ten or more years of economic instability. It is not possible for governments, corporations and individuals to pay their debts off at the same time. Each time they try to do so there will be a sharp crisis followed by greater regulation.
The interesting thing is that preparing for this eventuality makes it less likely. We deal with uncertainty by reducing our personal debt- just what is needed. Self reliance will also help wider society and curb its more authoritarian elements.
Why is it important that we make it? Basically.. if we make it.. so does everyone else..

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The Monk and the Nobleman

There is a story in the Zen tradition of Buddhism of a nobleman who approached a monk begging alms at the side of the road. "If you would only learn to flatter the king" said the nobleman, "you would not have to live on rice."
"If you would only learn to live on rice" replied the monk, "you would not have to flatter the king".

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The pleasures of the journey

My re branding began in my period of unemployment that ended six months ago. I had very little Alpha even prior to this humiliation and I guess it showed. Employers and co workers would concede that I was intelligent, hard working and basically decent but if you were to ask them why they did not promote me then they would probably laugh. In fact my lack of Alpha was the reason I found myself unemployed in the first place.
Men would treat me with respect (but never promote me) but my experiences with women were horrible. In fact most of the time I was invisible to them- quite literally. If I were in a mixed group then the women would edit me from their memories so that they literally believed that I was not present. They also had the habit of looking right through me as if I were a ghost. When they did take notice of me the experience was never good. Beta males are physical and emotional punchbags for unstable women. The healthy ones will ignore Betas while the messed up ones will go out of their way to humiliate him. Many sexual harassment cases come about in this way.
Fine- I thought. Women will be my barometer. Women will teach me Alpha without even knowing it.
I knew that I had to learn Alpha quickly- before I lost my home. I knew that a middle aged man would never work again in this economy without Game.
I was OK with this. Sometimes life forces you to do the right thing.
So.. when I was in London for interviews I would Sarge. I had no time or mental energy for a girlfriend but simply needed feedback from women on my Alpha.
This photograph is the only one I have of this period. I am in a pizza restaurant but I am the only one not eating. If you look carefully you will see that I am eating the flowers on the table out of hunger. I am holding court with two women, both of which are competing for this revolting old man. Look closely at my face and you will see the yellowish tinge of a poor diet and a big red boil on my chin.
I am both embarrassed by this photograph and very proud. Life (after kicking me in the balls repeatedly) seemed to be telling me that I could sponge off women for a living if I chose. Many of the women one meets at social events are middle aged and rather rich. I would find that they always brought their diamonds and their second homes into the conversation somehow- and yet I was too dim to understand what it meant.
Move forward six months and we see that my appearance has changed a great deal. This is not due to my trying to improve my appearance but is a natural consequence of having some success in my life. My income has approximately doubled during this period although I am now working like a dog. You will see a more recent photograph on my facebook profile. I look younger and have a certain masculine energy that was previously lacking.
I remain babeless but continue to experiment with the new power I have over women. I banter with the more Alpha partners in commercial law firms. These girls are as sharp as razors and are not insecure so I can push my luck with them in ways that I could not with a less successful women. How much Alpha does a partner in a law firm get from men? Not much I should imagine- and they enjoy it when they get it.
This is Game that is not centered around getting a woman. I do it to feel good and to make others feel good- and as a barometer of progress. I receive small gifts from these women from time to time (cake, chocolate and so on) but this is no more than female receptionists receive from the men they work for. I will have to get used to it.
The chief advantage of 'learned Alpha' is that one simply feels better- all the time. I have compiled a list of free stuff I found useful.
Next month I will seek to re brand myself as an Alpha in a conscious way. This will involve becoming an Alpha for real- which will solve all my money problems and then some. My re branding is actually a business investment.

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Wingman (or wing girl) wanted

Hey baby.. what's your sign?
You will have some idea of my game from my posts here. I have a very natural style of game and am good at building rapport but a not approaching very much at present. I am also one of the few pick up guys who post under my own name. This is a deliberate choice and it forces me to be honest with the women I meet. London and Essex based.
I am particularly good at cold reads but dislike heavy negging. I am one of those rare gamesters who is looking to fall in love. if you feel you could work with me, please leave a comment and mark it DO NOT PUBLISH.

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The Gamester

I dislike the term 'pick up artist' because it limits the usefulness of the science. Not every man wants a series of one night stands quite apart from the dangers involved. Condoms split and I cannot see why they should be 100% effective even if they do not as the woman's juices will still come in contact with the base of the penis even with a condom.
I am a romantic and want to find that one special woman. I suspect that many other men are as well but we feel that this is somehow un-masculine to admit this.
Game can be used for monogamy or simply to obtain respect from women at work. This is why I prefer the term 'gamester'. It implys both gangsterism and fun which seems appropriate.

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Begin at the end

All self improvement involves starting at the finishing post.
Let me explain.
Suppose we had an alcoholic that we wished to help. We could..
a) Discuss his childhood while he drank himself to death.
or..
b) Get him to stop drinking.
Now, immediately he does this all hell will break out in his life. His 'friends' will no longer wish to see him because they love alcohol more than they love him. He will suffer alcohol cravings and he will understand just how terribly empty his life has really become.
Such a person is in a truly wretched state- and yet he now knows more about his problems than he would have discovered from five years of therapy!
He can now begin the true work of recovery- which starts at the finishing post and not the starting gate.
Becoming free is much the same. We can discuss feminism forever- or we can start at the end- simply act as if we were free. This will teach us who our real friends are!

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Romance and the male soul

Oh how simple everything was in 1953- and how limiting!
Men and women would consult the Book of Love (from the famous song) and know their roles exactly.
Men were sexual.
Women were romantic.
It was more or less expected that a young man would walk around in a state of sexual frustration because he would have no reason to marry if he was not. This made premarital sex very precious to him because it was the only free relationship he would ever embark upon.
Women were forbidden from being openly sexual but they could indulge in romance of a distorted and limited kind. This 'romance' was dictated by the advertisers who told women that love meant regular gifts of flowers and chocolates. In effect this 'romance' was nothing more than an extended test of a man's ability to provide for a future wife. Love had nothing to do with it.
Gradually this artificial distinction was broken down. Women realized that it was OK to be sexual but did not realize that it was also OK to be romantic. We see this most strongly in films such as 'Sex and the City' in which women sit around and discuss their empty sex lives endlessly. They seem entirely focused upon sex and yet they have no real companionship in their lives- why else would they spend so much time together?
I think the time is right for men to become as liberated about romance as women have become about sex. This is a natural development because sex is no longer the rare thing it once was. Almost any man can learn a little game and get lucky and many men are discovering that the most precious moment is when a woman looks at him with that look of wonder and total acceptance that is impossible to describe.

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What the Peacock teaches

Have you ever looked at a peacock and compared him to the rather drab peahen he tries so hard to impress? In almost all birds we find the same thing- the male is both more brightly coloured and more vocal than the female.
Why should this be? Both sexes are programmed by nature to pass their genes in to the next generation.Surely this would motivate both peacocks and peahens equally?
Actually, no. It would not.
Peacocks and Peahens mate under sort of matriarchal system. The male contributes little to the next generation except exciting sex. The chicks are supported by their mother.
This means that mating is a cost free activity for the male. It is interesting that human beings do not use the same reproductive strategy. In fact it is usually the female who has the more elaborate mating strategy- which is hugely unusual and the opposite to all other primates other primates.
One reason may be that human beings pair bond- often for life. It is therefore worthwhile for the female to attract the right kind of mate.

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